I have been silent again. Only in print and most definitely not in heart and mind. There is so much chaos in the world and my silence is not due to a lack of discernment. As always, there are times to speak and times to listen. For the past eight or so months, I have been listening and trying to understand the madness. And, for the life of me, the only conclusion I come to is EGO. With ego comes pride. With pride comes the selfish nature of every single human on the planet. With the selfish nature of humanity comes the inability to show empathy. Without empathy comes the inability to compromise. Without the ability to compromise comes constant, vicious degrading of others around us. So, how do we end the chaos? We start within ourselves. Whether we “think” we are at fault or not, we all need to dive deep down and check on our own ego.
Being raised in a Christian home, things such as the “Golden Rule” were part of my understanding of morality. If you are familiar with the Bible you will know that Matthew 7: 12-14 tells us to treat others how we would want to be treated. If you’re not familiar with the Bible and are of a different faith, I would bet there is a similar proverb. My studies have shown me that most teachings of faith are very similar in how to live life peacefully among one another. Some of you would say, how can I go about treating them with kindness when they are horrible people! How can I treat them well when they have done this and that? With these comments, I can totally relate. But here is what I am certain of, the inability to forgive or empathize with someone on the opposite side of a situation will lead to bitterness. Bitterness is not easily shaken once it has taken hold of your mind. And, if I’m being completely honest, that bitterness you hold on to is not the result of the other person, but merely your reaction to them and your ego at play. I am not perfect and have fallen short many times. My ego creeps out and tries to steal the show often. On the contrary, I know change can only come through mutual respect and clarity of mind. And, if we continue letting our minds be undone by others around us, the ego almost always kicks in overdrive. When has arguing and belittling ever led to a profound philosophical revolution? Needless to say, I have tried teaching my children this proverb. They are the future of this planet and are the ones we should be investing in. I continue telling them it doesn’t matter how many times we fall, dust yourself back off, apologize and try again. Continuing to rid ourselves of ego is easier said than done.
Every human being was placed on this earth the same way… regardless how you believe that happened. And, pushing aside how you arrived on the planet, we were all created in likeness. We are all humans with a mind and a heart. We all want to love and be loved. I’d venture to say no one would choose a life of loneliness or a life of constant turmoil. With this in mind, I also know many of us were born into environments that have given us easier paths and others much harder in a multitude of ways. This is where empathy comes to play. For one instant, take yourself out of the equation. Get rid of the ego and focus your attention on the other person. Try your hardest to see how their perspective might differ from yours. Instead of passing judgment, imagine yourself in a similar situation. If you don’t agree, fine. I will tell you that stating your opinion in a harsh way will not in any circumstance change any person’s mind. In fact, you are more than likely arguing your point because of your ego and the need to reassure yourself that your thought patterns are correct. Instead, if you’re not ready to compromise, walk away and reflect without speaking through emotion. If you do agree or can find empathy for someone, voice your support. That’s what humans are here for. Love. We want to be loved.
I, of course, have personal beliefs about this current election and am praying it turns out the way I voted. However, if it doesn’t, arguing will not change that. Pouting will not change that. My ego will want to argue. My ego will want to pout and place blame. My ego will want everyone around me to also believe the same that I believe. But, me acting out will not be living by the golden rule. My outburst will not be treating others how I want to be treated because I most definitely don’t want to hear this type of reaction coming from the other side (or anywhere between). These are all basic lessons we teach our own children (or at least should be) and we as adults need to model it.
While we grapple with all the mayhem in the world, I would challenge everyone at some point in each day to check their ego. I truly believe this is where the problem lies. From the top of our government to the very last citizen. Ego is driving a wedge. Are there ways your ego is leading you astray? This is not so much an outward fight as it may appear, but one in the inside. Everything in life depends on the state of our mind.